Relationships & Love
8 Tips for Finding True Love in the New Year
The start of a new year brings high hopes for many singles that this is the year they find a life partner. But if you have suffered from relationship failures in the past, it’s time to make some simple changes before you can find your soulmate and have high hopes of settling down.
Colin Christopher, a clinical hypnotherapist who works with many single men and women, as well as does couples counseling, offers eight tips to help singles find true love this year:
1. Start with yourself. Write down all the good qualities you have as a mate andall your bad qualities. Pick one good quality you want to improve that makes you even more attractive to potential mates and pick one negative quality you can reduce or eliminate that will make you more attractive. You get what you attract.
2. Get off of internet dating. Relationship sites claim that one in five relationships start online. That means four in five start offline. Follow the odds and get out there. Expanding your social circle will increase your chances of finding that special person.
3. Clean up your living space. Prepare your space with the intent that you’re getting it ready to entertain a potential partner. This preparation and intent conditions your subconscious to be ready for a potential partner. If your space is dirty and cluttered, it conditions your mind to think that your space is not ready for someone and gives you an excuse not to meet potentials.
4. Get rid of things that remind you of your ex. If you really want to keep mementos, put them in a shoebox and tuck it away in a closet out of sight and out of mind. If reminders of your ex are around, they constantly trigger your mind to think about your ex and shift your focus away from meeting someone new, exciting and wonderful. Your ex is an ex for a reason.
5. Forgive yourself for being single. Being hard on yourself manipulates you into feeling despair. Forgiving yourself creates feelings of hope for the future and eventually feelings of gratitude and happiness. Those positive feelings are far more attractive to potential partners than the negative ones, so be kind to yourself.
6. Know the qualities you really want in a potential partner. There are always things you liked and disliked about your previous partner(s). Make a list of the things you want and stick to it. If you’re not clear and you waver in your desires, you may end up settling or compromising for a partner just for the sake of being in a relationship instead of being in a relationship with the right person.