Addiction & Substance Overuse
Are You a Compulsive Online and Mobile Shopper?
Thanks to smartphones and tablets, people can access any store in the world from their beds at 2am, their offices, the beach, an airport, even in their cars in a traffic jam. Access to stuff right from the palm of our hands is a compulsive shopper’s dream! However this easy access can also become a nightmare.
Compulsive shopping and spending are defined as inappropriate, excessive, and out of control. Like other addictions, it basically has to do with impulsiveness and lack of control over one’s impulses. In America, shopping is embedded in our culture; so often the impulsiveness comes out as excessive shopping. Sometimes referred to as being a “shopaholic,” shopping addiction can wreak havoc on a person’s life, family, and finances.
What causes addictive behaviors?
No one knows what causes addictive behaviors such as shopping, alcoholism, drug abuse, and gambling. Some of the new evidence suggests that certain people, maybe 10%-15%, may have a genetic predisposition to an addictive behavior, coupled with an environment in which the particular behavior is triggered, but no one really knows why. While the origin of addictions remains uncertain, why addicts continue their destructive behaviors is better understood. People will get some kind of high from an addictive behavior like shopping. Endorphins and dopamine, naturally occurring opiate receptor sites in the brain, get switched on, and the person feels good, and if it feels good they are more likely to do it.
There are certainly a lot of commonalities among shopaholics and other addicts. For instance while alcoholics will hide their bottles, shopaholics will hide their purchases.
Look for signs.
- Spending over budget. Often a person will spend over their budget and get into deep financial trouble, spending well above their income. The normal person will say, “Oops, I can’t afford to buy this or that.” But not someone who has an addiction. He or she will not recognize the boundaries of a budget.
- Compulsive buying. When a person with a shopping addiction goes shopping, they often compulsively buy, meaning they go for one pair of shoes and come out with 10.
- It’s a chronic problem. A shopping addiction is a continuous problem. ” says Hafeez. It’s more than a once-a-year Christmas spree. Some shopaholics report needing to buy something daily, even if it is a less expensive item. It’s the rush they are after.”
- Hiding the problem. Shopaholics will hide their purchases for fear of criticism and having an argument. They may have secret credit card accounts, too. Given the fact that this problem affects mostly women, as alcoholism affects mostly men, husbands will all of sudden be told their wife is $20,000 to $30,000 in debt and they are responsible, and many times, this comes out in divorce.