Infidelity and Sexually Transmitted Diseases

Infidelity is on the rise in our culture. Women and men are having affairs in equal numbers, and it is destroying the American concept of marriage. The emotional turmoil of being the person cheated on creates lifelong damage in the areas of trust, self-love, and being emotionally and mentally healthy. It is extremely difficult to keep a marriage together after an affair. Many couples cannot make it, while others stay together but not without many permanent wounds to the relationship. One of the worst things to come out of infidelity is the transmission of a sexually transmitted disease.  

No one ever wants to picture their partner sharing bodily fluids, emotions or sensations with another person. With or without an STD, the cheated-on person may view their partner as contaminated and dirty. When an STD is passed as a result of the affair, the cheated-on person now carries the terrible weight of living with decisions he or she never made. but an actual disease the already damaged relationship has to deal with creating a tremendous amount of worry, fear and anger in both people. The affair transcended from being emotionally destructive to physically destructive.

Being victimized is a defining aspect of an affair for the cheated-on partner. Assaults are being inflicted upon the relationship, security and trust without their knowledge. This places the cheated-on person in a position of being powerless over the decisions being made in his or her life without their consent. When an STD becomes an issue there is a much deeper level of not being protected, cared for, thought about or considered. The cheated on person moves into being physically assaulted in tandem with being emotionally assaulted.

When the STD that’s been passed on is a more permanent illness such as Herpes or HPV, or worst case scenario HIV, this disease will be with the cheated-on person for the rest of their life. With each outbreak or physical symptom, another emotional wound is inflicted.  This makes it very difficult for the person who was cheated on to stay in the marriage and in some cases, even more difficult for him or her to leave for the fear of having to face being single with an STD.

To combat this physical wound on a physical level, it’s important to take some self-protective steps. The cheated-on person must look after his or health by, first, trying to improve their immune system. Dietary and lifestyle changes can help; it’s crucial to have a doctor monitor the condition. Exercise, eating well, getting lots of rest and learning stress reduction techniques can all help. In doing this, the cheated-on person can put themselves first, reducing anger and depression while focusing on healing.