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College Grads Moving Back Home Need These Ground Rules

Many young grads will move back in with their parents after getting their degree in May. It’s often not easy on either party. Boomerang kids typically raise a host of financial and family issues. That’s why open communication and setting some basic ground rules are important.

Boomerang kids can be adult children of any age who return home because of job loss, divorce, or various other difficulties. Depending on your relationship with your child, how long he or she has been away, and the reason for the move, your child’s return to your home may be more or less bumpy. You and your child have both gotten used to some level of independence. You may be torn between feeling supportive and worrying about enabling bad behavior.”

Discuss your rules and expectations with your child when he or she first returns to the nest. Better yet, do it during the planning stages ahead of the move back to minimize potential conflicts.

Your conditions for living at home might include maintaining or actively seeking employment, paying rent, or helping out with a certain amount of house or yard work. For a younger adult child, it may be necessary to establish guidelines about alcohol use, smoking, and overnight guests. Also, discuss how long your child expects to stay.

Check Your Budget 

Reevaluate your own finances when your adult child moves back in. How will having an additional person eating groceries, consuming utilities, and perhaps driving your vehicle impact your cash flow?

Don’t let yourself get into financial trouble because you failed to reassess your own budget while helping your child. This holds true for all sorts of gifts, but it can be harder to say no when you share a living space and witness your child’s struggles firsthand,

If your child has a job, strongly consider charging rent. That will help the young person manage money responsibly. If you don’t need the money, you can place it in an account that can be used for your child’s future needs.

Build Good Money Habits 

When a child moves in, you have a unique opportunity to enforce good financial habits. Encourage your kid to save, especially if you’re not charging rent because of student debt payments or other reasons. This will give your child an emergency fund, a nest egg for eventually moving out, or a resource for paying down student debt sooner.

If your child is employed and his or her employer offers a 401(k) plan, talk to your child about why it’s a good idea to participate. If his or her employer doesn’t offer such a plan, mention and perhaps help your child to set up a traditional or Roth IRA. Even if your children can only save a little, you can help them to establish good saving habits that will serve them well later in life.

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