survivingtheinlaws

Surviving the In-Laws at Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is approaching, which means family will be coming to visit. While you may be on fabulous terms with your in-laws, finding it difficult to spend extended periods of time together is not uncommon. So, how do you make it through a visit from your in-laws? Here are some top tips:

Create a flexible itinerary. Offer a few ideas on different activities to consider. Having planned events during their stay allows little time for sitting around. Last minute planning may also make them feel unimportant.

Go to the movies or a sports event. If conversation with your in-laws isn’t your strong suit, opt for entertainment options that don’t require a great deal of personal interaction. By choosing to attend a local play, or attend an art exhibit, you are spending time and creating memories with your in-laws, while successfully avoiding awkward lulls in conversation.

Set up a special afternoon…without you. Buy tickets to a city tour or a local wine tasting. Give them suggestions for favorite delis, walking trails and small coffee shops, providing them the opportunity to explore the city by themselves. Offer to meet up for dinner later at one of your favorite restaurants.

Have a backup plan to recharge. If you know you can become overwhelmed at times by visitors, have a pre-planned errand, chore or phone call to make, allowing yourself some breathing room. Discuss this beforehand with your spouse so you don’t leave him or her guessing as to the reason for the sudden departure.

Host a gathering in your in-laws’ honor. Invite friends with similar interests to meet your in-laws. Your friends will create lively conversation over dinner and help the evening go smoothly, creating a buffer so you don’t have to entertain alone.

Allow your in-laws to get involved. While we all want to be host of the century, don’t forget your in-laws are family. More often than not they will want to help out when it comes to dinners or children. Allow your in-laws to pick up the kids from school and take them to their after school activities. Ask if they would like a special night with the grandkids, so that you and your spouse can go out for dinner. It’s a win-win for both parties.

Retire to your room early. Make your end of the day routine well known, even if it means retiring to the comfort of your own bed with a glass of wine. Simply say, “Today has been great, I am going to start winding down. Feel free to stay up as late as you would like. See you all in the morning!” This will allow you to reclaim your evening, by relaxing in your room.

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