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Mental & Emotional Health

You Look Great! 5 Ways to Lighten Up on Physical Appearance

Go on your Facebook or Instagram feed and you’ll be hard pressed not to find selfies of people flexing at the gym or sunbathing in a bikini. Sprinkled in are ads for skin creams, weight management shakes, hair restoration, cosmetic procedures and butt lifting yoga pants. Thanks to smartphones and selfie culture we are all online being bombarded and obsessing over physical appearance, especially our own. It’s time to lighten up. Below are some common obsessive thoughts and actions on physical appearance and what to do about them.

  1. “It takes me an hour and 5 outfit changes before I can leave the house.”

When you find it difficult to commit to an outfit choice and rapidly change outfits only to look in the mirror thinking everything looks terrible, there is certainly heightened anxiety taking place. The problem isn’t the clothes. The problem is self-perception and mindset. The better you feel about yourself from the inside and the more positive things you have in your life to be appreciative of, the less time you will spend on clothing choices. You’ll know exactly what you want to wear and you’ll be more than satisfied with your choice.

The solution? I suggest training your mind to decide and stick to the style decision by setting an alarm for five minutes to brainstorm two options. I also encourages focusing on where you are going and the positive aspects of the anticipated experience to shift the mind off your physical appearance.

  1. “I can’t pass a reflective surface without checking myself in it.”

If you’re checking yourself out thinking, you look fantastic and swiftly continue to walk on that’s normal, fine, and even healthy. However, if you are thinking, you need to lose weight, that you have a double chin, that you look old, that your hair is terrible, then you’re beating yourself up and are focused on unattainable perfection. Our bodies will change and we will age. This is a fact of life. Exercising for as little as 20 minutes per day, eating healthily, walking, reading and meditation are all things that are beneficial to us. When we make how we feel top priority, we start to look good. We’re more radiant, smiling, and have higher, more positive energy.

  1. “I never can leave the house without make-up.”

This is a tough one and common for a lot of women. We all want that fresh faced, gorgeous without trying look. Very few women past puberty can achieve it. There’s a difference between the level of self-consciousness between a woman who takes 10 minutes to put on some moisturizing foundation, mascara and lip gloss and someone who must spend an hour a full face of make-up perfectly applied.

Getting monthly facials and educating yourself on different make up formulations can help you cut down on the amount of make-up needed. This could shorten the time it takes getting glammed up!

  1. “I constantly compare myself to others on social media, in magazines, in public.”