Can A Person Ever Be Fully Prepared to Care for Someone with Alzheimer's? By Raf C Earlier this year, I attended a caregivers conference at the University of Minnesota. The morning keynote speaker was absolutely terrific ΓÇö an engaging, informed speaker who was also funny and self-deprecating. The speakerΓÇÖs bio was also impressive. He was a physician, a teacher, an author as well as a long-time caregiver for his mother who had AlzheimerΓÇÖs disease. The man knew his stuff. Yet, even with all of his education and experience, the speaker kept coming back to a central theme: All the planning in the world wonΓÇÖt prepare a person for becoming an AlzheimerΓÇÖs caregiver. Why? Many reasons. The main factor is the disease itself: It is totally unpredictable. IΓÇÖm sure you know the well-worn saying, ΓÇÿIf youΓÇÖve met one person with AlzheimerΓÇÖs, then youΓÇÖve met one person with AlzheimerΓÇÖs.ΓÇ¥ ItΓÇÖs often repeated for a reason. AlzheimerΓÇÖs, or whatever disease is destroying the brain, doesnΓÇÖt follow a set pattern. Every journey is different and the disease takes twists and turns one never thought possible. Even the best physician or care expert cannot tell you how the disease will progress and how it will ultimately manifest in the person. The experts know only that the brain will continue to deteriorate. Likewise, a care technique that works with one AlzheimerΓÇÖs patient may not work on the next person. And, what was effective yesterday might not be tomorrow. AlzheimerΓÇÖs disease shifts constantly. So why donΓÇÖt we simply give up? Because that alternative is unacceptable. As caregivers, we have to keep learning, innovating and testing. When a technique doesnΓÇÖt work, we attempt something else. The conference speaker was right ΓÇö being completely prepared is elusive. Yet we still keep trying. Nancy Wurtzel, a communications professional, is the editor of the blog DatingDementia.com, about midlife issues, including divorce, dating and caring for an elderly parent with AlzheimerΓÇÖs.