“Proof of Life” in Online Dating By Did any of you see the interview with Nev Schulman on TV the other day? He has a new book out about “catfishing”… which apparently means lying online to get a date. Here’s the meaning from the Urban Dictionary: “A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they’re not using Facebook or other social media to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances.”I found this all quite entertaining, because I met my new [and improve!] husband through Match.com over nine years ago. Yes, you have to be super careful out there, and yet I just don’t get how lying to others about who you are will ever pay off!The part of Nev’s interview I found most entertaining was how some lie with their photos online, by having them photoshopped, etc. He said the new thing is to ask perspective dates to go have their photo taken with a specific item in their hand, to get a more recent and accurate image.My mind immediately leapt to those “proof of life” photos from a kidnapping. You know, where the money won’t be dropped off until they see a photo of the victim, holding a newspaper with today’s date on it… WHAT is the world coming to?Laura Lee Carter, MA Counseling Psychology, the writer behind the popular online Midlife Crisis Queen, has been helping others turn midlife difficulties into opportunities for personal change since 2007. Besides working as a psychotherapist, Laura Lee has authored a number of books and e-books on midlife transformation. Don’t miss her new bookFind Your Reason to Be Here: The Search for Meaning in Midlife. Follow her on Twitter: @midlifequeenShare this: