Why I Now Believe in Love!

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Short answer? Because in the long-run love is all that really matters. Everything else I could provide for myself.

Yep, all you need is love, but it can sure take some of us a long time to figure that out!  It took me approximately 49 years to totally embrace the importance of authentic love in my life and then take all the necessary risks to find it.

Ten years ago around this time my life really went to on a downward spial. I was recently divorced and living on basically nothing after I lost my job. Daily I would sit and wonder: “What is the point of this crazy life I’m leading?”

I didn’t want to believe in love, because I didn’t have it and did not believe I ever would.  For me it came down to learning much more about my own shame and fears around love. This helped me to find the courage to finally open my heart, listen to my inner wisdom and then take a gigantic leap of faith.

Little did I know then that:

(A) What I was going through was a totally normal and even healthy psychological rite of passage,

(B) What I was searching for was authenticity, a better sense of who I was and how to live with that, and

(C) Things were about to take an enormous turn towards my best life EVER!

My uncertainty led to all sorts of creativity and learning experiences. Breakdowns do lead to breakthroughs in the most amazing ways! My attempt at starting my own dating service led to meeting the love of my life. My job loss as a librarian led toa new and much improved writing career.

That’s when I wrote my short e-book “Feel like a loser? What to do when you don’t have a clue! I thought I might share my vast experience in feeling exactly that way!

Laura Lee Carter, MA Counseling Psychology, is the founder of MidlifeCrisisQueen, where this post originally appeared. The blog is dedicated to helping others turn their own midlife crises into important opportunities for personal change. Besides working as a psychotherapist specializing in Midlife Psychology, Laura Lee writes for national magazines and has also authored books on love and midlife change. Follow her on Twitter: @midlifequeen. Please also visit http://www.howtobelieveinloveagain.com/