Relationships & Love Five Tips to Regain Intimacy By Wendy Strgar Has your intimate connection to your spouse or partner weakened after many years together? Here are my tips for regaining intimacy: Learn to feel and express emotions – When we cut ourselves off from our day to day feelings both good and bad- we also cut the line to our libido. ┬á By paying attention and checking in on our feeling state we become more aware of ourselves erotically as well. ┬á As we soften we are more able to let other people near us and conversely become more available to listening and being with them more deeply. ┬á Grow your sexual courage – Grow your sexual courage by breaking down the barriers to knowing and sharing about┬áyour own desire. ┬á Most couples struggle with differing desires at some point in their relationship … It often┬áturns into a battle over who initiates, who says no and becomes a mine field of painful interactions. ┬á By getting in touch with the highs and lows in your own sexual history you are able to not only take responsibility but also have a new curiosity about how to get back to a better place where you can want sexual intimacy. ┬á Increase your sensory awareness- ┬áby becoming more aware of the wide array of information our sense give us – we become neurologically primed for more and better intimacy. ┬á Instead of rushing through our intimate times, ┬áwe get to practice savoring physical experience of all kinds which slowly translates into deeper intimacy with ones partner. ┬á Getting over normal – the first thing anyone asks a therapist about their sex life is whether they are normal. ┬á In our exercise of self measuring ones level of relationality (i.e. how much do you move towards relationship) and inhibition – we can get a clear picture of where you and your partner sits on the sexual identity grid. ┬á Working towards moving to center is usually the answer. ┬áAnd there is tremendous freedom in becoming more internally free to experience and relate to our own sexuality. ┬á Experiment with fantasy- ┬áWe all have a fantasy life that grows up in us in our early adolescence.┬á Tapping into these stories is the rocket fuel for your sexual interactions. ┬áBecoming comfortable and curious about our fantasy life not only adds passion to the┬áexperience itself but also holds a wealth of knowledge about the deepest healing that sex can bring to us. Wendy Strgar is an award-winning entrepreneur and the founder and CEO of┬áGood Clean Love, a pioneer in the organic personal care product industry. She is a popular blogger and author of two books:┬áSex That Works: An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life┬áwill be published by Sounds True┬áin June 2017 and is the companion to her first popular book,┬áLove that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy. Wendy started Good Clean Love in 2003 after hearing from many women about, and experiencing for herself, the painful side effects of using petrochemical-based hygiene products. Today, Good Clean LoveΓÇÖs products are sold internationally and endorsed by physicians nationwide for their safe and pure ingredients. A recent NIH-funded study found Good Clean LoveΓÇÖs line of personal lubricant to be one of the safest products of its class.