5 Lies We Tell Ourselves That Age Us

By Carol Tuttle

You and I know there’s nothing wrong with getting older.

You’ve lived through important experiences and every year is worth celebrating.

But if you’re like many women, it’s not just the idea of getting older that bothers you. What bothers you is the worry that you might lose yourself or be forgotten or overlooked because of your age. You’re not alone in those concerns!

I’m 60 years old and this might surprise you: I currently look better and feel healthier than I ever have in my life. People have even asked me if I’ve had a facelift (I haven’t) and what I’ve done to de-age myself. How is that possible?

Over the last decade, I’ve discovered that women often age themselves prematurely—so they look and feel older than they actually are. How exactly do you do that?

It starts with your beliefs about age.

Here are 4 common lies that can actually make you look and feel older than you are. Let’s debunk them so you can feel more vibrant and in charge of your life than ever.

Lie #1: “I am too old to wear that!”

I hear this all the time from women 50 and up who go through my online style course, Dressing Your Truth. The course helps you discover which unique type of beauty you express and identify which clothes look best on you. But some women resist the clothes they would actually love to wear—because of their age alone.

My response? Grandma is a role, not a style! When a woman knows her unique Type of beauty, she can dress true to who she is, no matter her age. Age does not need to be the deciding factor in your styl

Lie #2:  “My body is in pain because I am getting old.”

Sure, things happen to your body. You’ve been living in it for so many years and things have been used a lot!

But the truth is, there is much to learn about diet, fitness, and physical care that is new and advanced that can help you stay fit and healthy during your mature years. When you just say you’re having a physical issue due to getting old, you are settling for less and concluding that nothing can be done when something probably can be.

Lie #3: “I need a facelift!”

No, you don’t.

You need a good skin care regimen for aging skin. And you need acceptance that your skin changes as you age.

With the modern-day beauty campaigns selling us that youth is beauty, choose to be a remodel to younger women that aging has its own form and expression of beauty.

Drop the word “wrinkles” from your vocabulary completely. Stop critiquing your facial lines and movement as a negative quality. You earned your beautiful face!

Lie #4: “I have to prepare for old age.”

This little lie just needs a little edit! A small change in words changes your perspective, which changes your experience in big ways.

Feel how different it feels to say instead, “I need to prepare for the next phase of life.” It’s true. You are getting ready for the next phase, just like you prepared for all of the phases of life you have already navigated. Just a simple change in language feels a lot more optimistic and less doomsday-ish!

Lie #5: “Old people don’t have much of a sex drive!” It’s easy to fall in to the trap of believing that age reduces your sexual drive. That doesn’t have to be true for you.

If you have been married to the same man as long as I have (38 years), it may take a little more investment in planning and creativity to keep the sexual chemistry going. We do that by keeping it an open conversation that we chat about once a week, and we actually plan our intimate time, as it’s easy to get lazy about it after so many years of being together.Some great supplements are on the market that help your body’s hormones come back alive. Talk to a health professional who focuses on sexual enhancement for people 50 and up.

 This time can be the best time of your life!

Don’t get stuck in the old lies we’ve been told about getting older. I promise that it’s possible to live each year feeling even more joyful, beautiful, and fully alive.

The key to aging well is telling yourself the truth.

The truth is, you are beautiful, amazing, and worth caring for with every passing year.

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, energy healer, online influencer and pioneer in the field of personal development. She’s the best-selling author of 5 books: Remembering Wholeness, It’s Just My Nature, Discover Your Type of Beauty, The Child Whisperer and her newest, Mastering Affluence, released nationwide September 18, 2018. 

Carol is sought after to teach about healing, fashion and body image through her life-changing online programs, including The Carol Tuttle Healing Center, a comprehensive online library of  healing sessions with life-altering results for over 1,000 clients. In the last few years, she went on a personal speaking tour and was met with sold-out audiences across the United States. Carol supports millions worldwide in creating more intentional lives and fulfilling relationships and is a regular contributor to top business, health and wellness sites including  Entrepreneur,Business.com, Elite Daily, Bustle, Woman’s Day, Thrive Global, Healthy Living. My Domaine, She Knows and Working Mother.

For more information, please visit https://ct.liveyourtruth.com/ and connect with her on Facebook @caroltuttle, Instagram @caroltuttle and on Pinterest @dressyourtruth.

Mastering Affluence is available from Amazon, https://ct.liveyourtruth.com/ and wherever fine books are sold.