Honeymoon long over? Hang in there. A 2018 University of California, Berkeley, study shows those prickly disagreements that can mark the early and middle years of marriage mellow with age as conflicts give way to humor and acceptance. Researchers analyzed videotaped conversations between 87 middle-aged and older husbands and wives who had been married for… Continue reading As Married Couples Age, Humor Replaces Bickering
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How to Save Your Marriage After Becoming Your Husband’s Caregiver
My husband and I were college sweethearts and had been together for 28 years when he suffered a cardiac arrest in 2003. He didn’t get enough oxygen to his brain and lapsed into a coma for 10 days. When he woke, he wasn’t the same person I had married. He had severe cognitive deficits; his… Continue reading How to Save Your Marriage After Becoming Your Husband’s Caregiver
Marriage Protects Against Malnutrition in Old Age
More and more elderly people are suffering from malnutrition. People who are unmarried, separated or divorced are most often affected, while men and women who are either married or widowed tend to take better care of themselves. Those who have difficulty walking or coping with stairs or who have just returned home from hospital are… Continue reading Marriage Protects Against Malnutrition in Old Age
4 Life Changes That Warrant An Investment Tune-up
If you’re 45 to 65 and are going through some serious changes in your life, you should be thinking about these steps right now: Life Change #1: New Job The average American worker changes jobs every 4.4 years, and when they start a new job, their 401(k) plans don’t typically come along. In fact, the… Continue reading 4 Life Changes That Warrant An Investment Tune-up
Romance Has No Age Limit
Romance is like happiness—you know it when it happens, but it is hard to define. However, it is the missing ingredient in many older individuals’ lives—the excitement of being with someone special that might or might not lead to a real attachment. One widow reported the thrill she got when a casual date held her… Continue reading Romance Has No Age Limit
Marriage May Help Stave Off Dementia
Marriage may lower the risk of developing dementia, according to a new analysis. The synthesis of the available evidence was published online in the Journal of Neurology, Neurosurgery & Psychiatry. Lifelong single people and widowers are at heightened risk of developing the disease, the findings indicate, although single status may no longer be quite the… Continue reading Marriage May Help Stave Off Dementia
Frailty and Older Men
Frailty can have devastating health consequences in older adults: It raises the risk of falling, breaking a bone, becoming hospitalized, developing delirium and dying. And though a growing frailty has always been associated with aging, two studies have found that a small number of frail older men became stronger and less frail as they grew… Continue reading Frailty and Older Men
Late-in-Life Marriage and Tough Financial Decisions
Marriage later in life can be a satisfying and romantic accomplishment, whether it is a first-time event or the rekindling of love after a divorce or death of a spouse. However, unlike marriage in your 20s, making the commitment in your 50s, 60s or later suggests not only a walk down the aisle but also… Continue reading Late-in-Life Marriage and Tough Financial Decisions
How to Get Vital Records
It can seem overwhelming to deal with government agencies, especially when you’re requesting something as important as a vital record. Knowing in advance what to do can make the process much easier. Here, the National Center for Health Statistics, part of the federal Centers for Disease Control, shares the best ways to get the records… Continue reading How to Get Vital Records
12 Reasons Your Marriage is Miserable
It was the happiest day of your life. You publically proclaimed your vows to your love in front of friends and family and promised to honor them till death do you part. But along the way something happened. Over the years you drifted apart, became interested in different things, and that once solid relationship started… Continue reading 12 Reasons Your Marriage is Miserable
Are You Married To Your Opposite?
A frequently cited statistic – that nearly half of marriages end in divorce in the United States – has an emotional pull on the intuitions of many. Recent data suggests, however, that the 45- to 50-percent divorce rate is not presently accurate, as our divorces apparently have been lowering in numbers since the 1990s. Does… Continue reading Are You Married To Your Opposite?
Live Together or Get Married? Study Finds Similar Emotional Benefits
When it comes to emotional health, couples — especially women — do just as well moving in together as they do getting married, according to a national study done at Ohio State University in December 2015. The team studied young people, but here at thirdAGE we’re guessing the results would be similar for older people.… Continue reading Live Together or Get Married? Study Finds Similar Emotional Benefits
Being Married Linked to Better Outcomes Following Surgery
Among more than 1,500 adults who underwent cardiac surgery, those who were divorced, separated, or widowed were more likely to have died or develop a new functional disability after the surgery compared with the married participants, according to a study published online in October 2015 by JAMA Surgery. A release from the publisher notes that… Continue reading Being Married Linked to Better Outcomes Following Surgery
Want Your Marriage to Last? Show Some Gratitude
Gratitude might be key to improving marriages, according to new University of Georgia research. “We found that feeling appreciated and believing that your spouse values you directly influences how you feel about your marriage, how committed you are to it, and your belief that it will last,” said study co-author Ted Futris, an associate professor… Continue reading Want Your Marriage to Last? Show Some Gratitude
4 Tips To Help Couples Keep The Peace About Money
Money may not have the power to buy happiness, but it sure can stress us out. In fact, a survey by the American Psychological Association pinpointed money as the leading cause of stress for Americans, with 72 percent saying they had felt at least some stress about money in the previous month. What’s more, about… Continue reading 4 Tips To Help Couples Keep The Peace About Money
4 Ways To Fortify Your Marital Bonds
Marriage is a complex, ever-evolving relationship that challenges partners to remain active in their efforts to maintain the relationship. While the components of a healthy relationship – passion, commitment and intimacy – may seem abstract, I have found specific actions through my practice as a clinical psychologist and marriage and family therapist that couples can do… Continue reading 4 Ways To Fortify Your Marital Bonds
Is Chronic Complaining Wrecking Your Relationship?
We all have bad days, and we often lean on the person we love most for support during tough times. But if your long-term partner (or you) complains too regularly, it can kill the intimacy and threaten the stability of your relationship. “A chronic complainer can cause his/her partner to lose compassion and shut down… Continue reading Is Chronic Complaining Wrecking Your Relationship?
3 Ways to Overcome the Hurt of Cheating
Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., and Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., have been married (and are still in love) after 35 years. As founders of the Hendricks Institute, in Ojai, California, and authors of the new book Conscious Loving Ever After, they have developed research-backed strategies for recovering from the hurt and bitterness caused by infidelity and for deepening… Continue reading 3 Ways to Overcome the Hurt of Cheating