During the first twelve years of my second marriage, my husband and I were involved in a verbally abusive relationship. Because I had experienced ongoing verbal abuse since childhood, I was unaware of what was occurring in my marriage as it was unfolding. It wasn’t until we’d been together 10 years and the abuse began… Continue reading Recognizing Verbal Abuse So You Can Take Steps to End It
Category: Relationships & Love
Dating the Grown-Up Way: Why It’s Better Over 40
Young love is so widespread each Valentine’s Day that it threatens to deplete Cupid’s stock of arrows. But single men and women with a few extra decades under their belts – and perhaps a little gray in their hair – are also in the market for romance, and they likely have a better understanding of… Continue reading Dating the Grown-Up Way: Why It’s Better Over 40
Are You Married To Your Opposite?
A frequently cited statistic – that nearly half of marriages end in divorce in the United States – has an emotional pull on the intuitions of many. Recent data suggests, however, that the 45- to 50-percent divorce rate is not presently accurate, as our divorces apparently have been lowering in numbers since the 1990s. Does… Continue reading Are You Married To Your Opposite?
7 Steps to A Peaceful Divorce
The only thing worse than a divorce is a nasty divorce full of gossip, unnecessary expenditures that financially drain both spouses and the added emotional turmoil that comes with fighting, name calling and even physical abuse. Is it possible to have a peaceful and even amicable divorce? Joryn Jenkins, a trial attorney with 35 years… Continue reading 7 Steps to A Peaceful Divorce
Give Up “Getting Over the Past”
Is there something in your past causing you pain and preventing you from fully experiencing joy in the present? Perhaps there is an upset with your partner you can’t seem to put behind you. It could be anything from a fight over dinner to a betrayal of trust. Whatever scenario you happen to be in,… Continue reading Give Up “Getting Over the Past”
Couples’ Quality of Life Linked Even After One Spouse Dies
When one spouse passes away, his or her characteristics continue to be linked with the surviving spouse’s well-being, according to new research published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science. The findings also indicate that this link between the deceased spouse and surviving spouse is as strong as that between partners… Continue reading Couples’ Quality of Life Linked Even After One Spouse Dies
When It Comes to Happiness, Time’s More Important than Money
You’ll have a better chance at happiness if you value time more than money, according to new research published by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology. In six studies with more than 4,600 participants, researchers found an almost even split between people who tended to value their time or money, and that choice was… Continue reading When It Comes to Happiness, Time’s More Important than Money
Helping Others will Help You
Helping people, whether friends, family or strangers, can help lessen stress in our lives, according to new research published in Clinical Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science. “Our research shows that when we help others we can also help ourselves,” explains study author Emily Ansell of the Yale University School of… Continue reading Helping Others will Help You
Live Together or Get Married? Study Finds Similar Emotional Benefits
When it comes to emotional health, couples — especially women — do just as well moving in together as they do getting married, according to a national study done at Ohio State University in December 2015. The team studied young people, but here at thirdAGE we’re guessing the results would be similar for older people.… Continue reading Live Together or Get Married? Study Finds Similar Emotional Benefits
Home-Delivered Meals Reduce Loneliness
When Congress passed the Older Americans Act in 1965 to support elderly people who were struggling — often alone — to continue to live at home, a major plank of the legislation provided for home delivery of meals to ensure their adequate nutrition. In the midst of the holiday season 2015, a study done at… Continue reading Home-Delivered Meals Reduce Loneliness
Loneliness Can Cause Illness in Older Adults
For older adults, perceived social isolation is a major health risk that can increase the risk of premature death by 14 percent, according to research done at the University of Chicago and published November 23rd 2015 in theProceedings of the National Academy of Sciences A release from the university notes that researchers have long known… Continue reading Loneliness Can Cause Illness in Older Adults
Researchers Call for Hospitals to Establish Bereavement Programs
Backed by a growing body of research, investigators at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute in Boston are calling for all hospitals to establish bereavement programs for families of deceased patients. In a paper in the November 2015 issue of the Journal of Palliative Medicine, the researchers say such programs – which guide and support people through the… Continue reading Researchers Call for Hospitals to Establish Bereavement Programs
Singing Together Helps People Bond Quickly
We have long known the power of a good sing-along. Now, research from the University of Oxford has shown that singing is a great ice-breaker and can get groups of people to bond together more quickly than other activities can. The study, published in October 2015 in the Royal Society’sOpen Science journal, looked at how… Continue reading Singing Together Helps People Bond Quickly
Being Married Linked to Better Outcomes Following Surgery
Among more than 1,500 adults who underwent cardiac surgery, those who were divorced, separated, or widowed were more likely to have died or develop a new functional disability after the surgery compared with the married participants, according to a study published online in October 2015 by JAMA Surgery. A release from the publisher notes that… Continue reading Being Married Linked to Better Outcomes Following Surgery
Seniors and First Date Sex
The most sexually bereft men on the planet might just be recently divorced senior guys, because most haven’t been sexual for a long while in failed marriages. Some newbies date hoping to relieve their pent-up sexual needs, but their single-minded focus renders them first date disasters. Senior women know their dating responsibilities don’t include being… Continue reading Seniors and First Date Sex
In Defense of Living Again After Loss
If the article title sounds a bit baffling…it’s because that it is a bit baffling. Why should anyone feel as though they have to defend living again after loss? I am not sure – but unfortunately, it is happening. Many survivors of loss find themselves defending an eventual continuity of life in the ways that… Continue reading In Defense of Living Again After Loss
Dinner Is Not A Smart First Date
No Fantasies While nearly every senior dater wants romance, it’s a serious mistake to think a first date should be romantic. First dates are to get acquainted, not fall in love. And if you’re a senior who still doesn’t understand a first date is an interview, you’ll continue squandering valuable time on second and third… Continue reading Dinner Is Not A Smart First Date
In-Person Contact Is Critical to Seniors’ Mental Well-Being
In a study of adults aged 50 years and older, the probability of experiencing depressive symptoms steadily increased as the frequency of in-person, but not phone or written/email contact, decreased. The article was published in October 2015 in Journal of the American Geriatrics Society. A release from the publisher reports that people without in-person social… Continue reading In-Person Contact Is Critical to Seniors’ Mental Well-Being