ThirdAge Health Close-Up: I Fell and Dislocated My Shoulder

From the moment my left shoulder hit the carpet with a THWACK, I knew it was bad. However, I didnΓÇÖt immediately realize just how much of an over-achiever I was on the inane injury front.

The date was October 2nd 2013. I was at GurneyΓÇÖs Resort and Spa in Montauk, New York. I had just recorded a segment on Ingrid LemmeΓÇÖs talk show ΓÇ£American DreamΓÇ¥ during which I discussed my work as a couples therapist and my book, “The Complete Marriage Counselor: Relationship-saving Advice from AmericaΓÇÖs Top 50+ Couples Therapists.”.

Shoulder met carpet a few moments after I left the makeshift set. Despite the searing pain, I got up and made it the few feet to the lobby but it was obvious the taxi that was waiting for me would leave sans passenger. My self-diagnosis: a dislocated shoulder. A hotel employee called 911.

During the 45-minute ambulance ride to Southampton Hospital, the two female paramedics tried to take my mind off the ceaseless, jamming pain by commenting that I was the most attractive injured person theyΓÇÖd ferried (courtesy of the makeup job IΓÇÖd undergone a few hours earlier for the TV appearance).

Their joking helped ground me. This was an extended bad moment ΓÇô not the entirety of my life. At the ER, after x-rays confirmed the dislocated shoulder, the doctor finally popped it back and gave me meds. Sweet relief!

I checked my phone. My sister had left a series of messages, Her pregnant daughterΓÇÖs water had broken around the time of my unfortunate carpet encounter. Brittany gave birth approximately the same moment I was eating Percocets. As I later joked, my ΓÇ£laborΓÇ¥ ended in a sling; hers with an infant.

Back home, a major NYC orthopedic specialist labeled me on the mend. A week later he wrote a scrip for physical therapy, assuring me IΓÇÖd need just one or two sessions. Concern set in when two days after the first session the sensation of sparks flying out of my shoulder woke me in the middle of the night.

At my next PT session I mentioned the episode, saying, ΓÇ£Maybe we shouldnΓÇÖt do this?ΓÇ¥ The physical therapist said sheΓÇÖd be gentle. An hour later I was in another ER with my shoulder dislocated for the second time in 10 days.

The next physician I went to, Dr. Andrew Rokito at the New York University Hospital for Joint Diseases, ordered an MRI. Together we looked over the film. I had a Bankart Lesion, an injury to a structure in the shoulder called the anterior glenoid labrum. The labral tears rendered my shoulder unstable and susceptible to repeated dislocations.

My hopes for a non-surgical recovery were dashed but my subsequent research confirmed Dr. RokitoΓÇÖs advice. The surgery on January 22nd was outpatient and involved reattachment and tightening of the torn labrum and ligaments using sutures and bone anchors.

Recovery was difficult. News to no one: Pain is not fun. Nor is learning to negotiate daily tasks like showering and food shopping one-handed with my left arm in a sling. Fortunately, IΓÇÖm right-handed so at least I had my dominant hand free to do the maneuvering. I spent winter essentially as a hermit. It was laughably torturous to fit my down coat over the bulky sling. I did heed a friendΓÇÖs helpful suggestion to tie a shoelace to the bottom of my coatΓÇÖs zipper and tug, tug, tug. I only went out for work, eschewing social invitations.

Still, I rarely became depressed. When self-pity loomed, I reminded myself IΓÇÖd been through a much more serious injury years earlier when a car nearly severed my ankle as I crossed the street. My present predicament, in comparison, was a passing squall.

My daily ΓÇ£recoveryΓÇ¥ diet included heaping portions of gratitude ΓÇô the Bankart Lesion and resulting surgery was an annoyance, a pit stop, teaching me how fortunate I am to have my health and people around me who care. When I had pain, again I reminded myself how much worse recovery from my ankle injury had been.

I grew to appreciate the solitude, hunkering down in my apartment watching the world go by. With fewer distractions, I embraced the opportunity to cherish my own company as well to savor small pleasures like a perfect cup of coffee and the sound of my thoughts.

The sling has long since been discarded. How lovely it is to lift my arm over my head, slide that arm into a sleeve, and pick up my eight-pound dog ΓÇô all without pain.

I recently ΓÇ£graduatedΓÇ¥ from physical therapy, this time at NYU Langone, and IΓÇÖm basically back to my normal routine. I am more fragile physically yet also stronger emotionally than before my accident.

Life can change in a moment so I want to fully be in the moments I am granted.

ThatΓÇÖs why, four months after my accident while visiting the most beautiful spot on earth (just a minor exaggeration!), Gateway Canyons, I felt conflicted when well-meaning friends and family urged me not to go horseback riding. I might fall. But I could also miss an amazing experience. Did I want to live my life in fear?

I requested the gentlest mare in the stable. It was an easy trail ride ΓÇô no galloping, not even a cantor. I gloried in the view, the feel of the wind, MaliΓÇÖs silken flanks gliding under me. I felt whole, powerful, alive!